You know a Mormon Boy?

So I have a boy and he is .....a boy.
He and his friends may occasionally pool hop, or take the orange high way cones and re-arrange them, and sometimes they throw water balloons at their friends that are having a bon fires (my son and his 'bro s' hide in the bushes and bombard the party/bonfire). My son tells me this so I know.
I may not love it. I may wish they did other things- and 99% of the time they ARE at the YMCA balling. There are a ton of other things that are sooooo much worse they could be doing. Not going to lie I may have done a few of these things back in the day

One Saturday night Alex recently Alex dropped his friends off at a neighborhood and went with another friend, Tucker, to get gas. Tucker and Alex were then going to say good bye to a friend going off to college when he got a text to pick up his friends in the neighborhood.

They drove, parked the car, got out and started walking through a yard to get to the common area behind the houses. They saw and heard that there were police so they went back to the car where they were met by not one but two police cars.
They were told to stop- which Alex immediately did.

Idiot Tucker took off running . Idiot

This increased not only the suspicion and the police adrenaline thus actions towards my son.
They questioned Alex
NEVER told him why.
Had him call his 'friends' again and again
Took Alex behind the house and had him sit Indian style while they questioned him ( now it was about 6 officers) They told him that if he lied or gave them any trouble he would be washing dishes for the rest of his life.
Brought him back to the van- sat him Indian -style again and
RANSACKED my minivan beyond belief.
Again never telling him why.
Alex, being in Criminal Justice at EMCC half the school day, understood why they were doing certain things. He over and over said "Sir" and " I am being compliant."
He better because I love the police. I have brothers and nephews that are or /were Srgts, Deputies
During the ransack of my car -with no warrant and no 'ok' from my son- they found Benjamin's cardboard foil sword that he made at pageant and Alex's Book of Mormon.
Rude comments and jerring were made about Alex, his 'weapons' and our religion.

Jerring about our religion.

They then put Alex in the back of the police car, took him over to his friends house. He watched as they woke up Tuckers parents. She was greeted not by"Sheriff Dept- we would like to talk to you about your son..." or "Hello your idiot son took off."
She was greeted by "You know a Mormon boy ?"

After talking to the police, Tucker's talked to Alex and he was escorted back to the van.
He was THEN ( and hour and a half later) allowed to call us. Alex is 17. A MINOR.
Alex chose- wisely to call Scott- Sometimes one needs to use judgement on which parent to call. Scott tends to be more calm than me.
Alex was allowed to go home and was told he better not be seen again by this officer.

Scott and I discussed our plan . Scott would let me know.
After touching base with Scott- he told me to talk to Alex myself. SO I woke him up from a sound sleep and got the same story.
I was pissed.
I called the Sheriff's office and inquired what they heck was my son stopped for, what gave them the right to ransack my car, why was his religion mocked and why was it NOT until an hour and a half later did my MINOR son get to call his parents.
I tried really hard to convey that I knew that there was 2 sides to a story - so????? ....what's theirs?
I was told I would have to call back at night because there was no report written
So I did
and the Sergeant had no idea what I was talking about
because there was no report.
I expressed my concern, my outrage that my son's religion was jeered. I mean no one would get away with saying "Jew boy," "Towel Head," or "Black Boy."

I was upset that my son was held without EVER being told why, and no report was written of what went on for that 1.5 hours.

I WAS MAD THAT MY SON, THE EAGLE SCOUT AND IN A CRIMINAL JUSTICE PROGRAM TO BE ONE OF THEM, WAS TREATED LIKE DO-DO.

I was told that it would take about 4 days to understand what was going on.
Hmmm but ok
A few minutes later I was called back and asked if the Sargent could come over.
At 11 pm on a Sunday? Sure.
We invited the officers in to our home and graciously listened.
Alex was in a neighborhood that he didn't know the street name. He just knew it was So-So neighborhood and he was picking up his buddies.
Alex parked his...my car and tresspassed through a guys yard. That is it.

The police were called because there had been a rash of burglary or 'car shopping' and garage shopping in this high end neighborhood. To the man who called, a strange car parked in front of his house and two men( Alex is 6'3") walked around back of his house.
BECAUSE HIS IDIOT FRIEND RAN that made them look even worse.

Alex accept responsibility for his actions. He didn't think.

The police then address their mistakes and asked for forgiveness.
It was frankly accepted.
I think it was interesting that the Sergeant said that the one Deputy " was not raised to be as refined"
He then complemented us and Alex for being truthful and "elite."
They counseled us on how to better protect Alex from his idiot friends.
By then time it was all over hours later- I was offering strawberry shortcake.



To Tuckers defense- he thought they were going to get in trouble for all the past times they DID pool hop and water balloon tossing . Alex was glad he actually took off. Alex has been taught to not say too much..where Tucker tends to regurgitate everything ever done.